One of the most frequently asked questions, when it comes to practical concerns
of being married to more than one wife in Christian Polygamy, pertains to the ractical matter of how to get "last names" for second wives.
Because modern laws in most countries presently do not legally
"allow" more than one wife at a time to be "legally recognized",
Christian Polygamous families are thereby prevented from
having any second or additional wives be able to acquire
the husband's "last name" through marriage. This is, of course,
the presently "legally married" wife is instead
"legally divorced" (only in paper),
so that the second wife may then "legally marry" afterward
and thereby acquire the "last name" too.
At the FRIENDS AND FELLOWHELPERS listserv (aka, "FAF"),
this question has been asked on more than one occasion.
On January 21, 2000, this matter was raised again when one family's
first wife made a post, asking
about the issue of her possibly getting a
"Legal Divorce" with her husband
(but "only on paper", and not in actuality according to God)
as a way she could help an incoming second wife to their family be able to
have marital "rights" as well as also have her husband's "last name" too.
The Founder of this ministry then posted the
"Legal Divorce" of 1st Wives reply
to her. Alongside that post to her at the
FRIENDS AND FELLOWHELPERS listserv,
the Founder also REPOSTED a previous post sent
back in June, 1999, pertaining to the "last names" matter.
Below is the copy of that REPOST, which specifically pertains
only to the matter of "last names" for second wives.
From: . . . TRUTH BEARER
To: FAF listserv
Date: Monday, January 24, 2000 2:05 PM
Subject: **REPOST** last names [of more wives]
Greetings in the love of the Lord.
This is a REPOST of a post I made several months ago
(i.e., last June, 1999), which pertains to the question
asked by [[woman asking question]], regarding the issue of last names
for wives. (Please see my other post alongside this
one here, titled, "About 'Legal Divorce' of 1st Wives".)
From: . . . TRUTH BEARER
Date: Thursday, June 24, 1999 7:33 PM
Subject: Re: last names
Greetings in the love of the Lord Jesus Christ the Redeemer!
Welcome to this listserv, and thank you for posting your very good question
To: FAF listserv
Date: Thursday, June 24, 1999 12:41 PM
Subject: last names
I am very new the poly marriage and plan on becoming a second wife. My
question pertains to the last name of children that my husband and I
have. Should they have his last name, my last name, hyphenated? Please
help. Also, do I keep my last name or legally change it to his? Thanks
for the comments.
Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage. I pray that your new life
will be a blessing for you, your husband, and your entire family.
Notwithstanding the very important legal warnings to not misrepresent
yourself or marital status in legal matters,
I would suggest that it is still possible for YOU to still "get"
your husband's last name too. No, I would not recommend attempting a
"legal" marriage to a man who is already "legally" married. Nor do I necessarily
recommend the idea of your husband
"legally divorcing" his first wife in
order to then marry you "legally". Rather, one can simply go to civil
court and get their name changed "legally". And then, there you are!
Same last name as your husband, even though not "legally" recognized
that way. But your children would have the same last name by a matter
of birth, whether it be by YOUR (new) "last name" or by their father's. :-)
As for your children having a "hyphenated name", my own personal "bias" is,
I confess, rather strongly against that, seeing it as something which
"liberal" "feminists" have been doing for quite some time now. But, like I
said, I confess that is my bias here, so I ask for your understanding in
But anyway, I do need to add one thing here. I am not a lawyer, so please
do not regard my thoughts here on this matter as any sort of official "legal
advice". Before doing any such actions, please do see your own attorney
first. While you are certainly welcome to take my ideas to your attorney,
please run it by an attorney whom you trust!
I've simply added my thoughts to your very good question, and hope it helps
in perhaps in some small way ---as long as your attorney can find a way to
utilize them to your benefit without subsequent detriment to you.
Anyway, Z, thanks again for bringing such a good question to the
I look forward to more of your posts here indeed.
May the Lord bless you and your coming marriage and family!
© January 24, 2000, The Standard Bearer
P.O. Box 765, O.O.B., ME 04064